I struggled a lot as a young man. Looking back, I wish that I would have had someone who could have been there to listen to me, to help me figure things out, and to validate who I was and what I was working towards. Without this guidance I ended up expending a great deal of time and energy in areas that weren’t fulfilling or productive, and created a lot of pain for myself and the people around me. I eventually did figure things out, but I often ask myself what might have been different if I would have had the support to really understand myself, and make decisions based on this self-awareness? This is the primary motivation for the work that I do with young men.
I was trained through the Coaches Training Institute (www.thecoaches.com), have been coaching private clients since 2007, and have focused exclusively on coaching young men since 2009. A great deal of this work experience was gained at AIM House (www.aimhouse.com), a residential, therapeutic-mentoring program for young men in Boulder, CO where I functioned as a Primary Mentor for 3 years and then spent an additional 3+ years as the Program Director working with hundreds of young men and their families.
My wife Rebecca and I are the parents of two vibrant teenage daughters, so I have a first-hand understanding of the challenges and rewards of parenting teens and young adults, and want to support other families to make this phase of parenting as positive and enjoyable as possible.
Feedback about my work…
“Patrick has been a uniquely effective mentor to our son who has been struggling to take on his adult roles and responsibilities in a dignified manner. Our son put it best: “He helps you help yourself. He keeps your head high even when you can’t. He keeps you in your corner even if you are struggling to be in that corner. He is a friend when he needs to be, a mentor when he needs to be, and he makes you constantly check yourself.” We pay Patrick to help our son, so his first priority is our son’s interests, not ours. This is important to note. Patrick champions what’s important for the long term benefit of our son. To this end, he fully listens to us, too. Patrick has a special way of assessing the family dynamic (for better or worse), engendering trust, easing tension, and helping everyone to support our son with integrity. ” — Parents of 24 y/o man from Boulder, CO
“We are so grateful for your input into our son’s life and process. He has so appreciated you. We feel like you have been a real gift to him. Thank you for all you have done to help him continue working through his “stuff” and for holding him accountable. We hope you will always be a part of his life in some way” — Parents of 22 y/o man from Denver, CO
“I wanted to let you know how much I appreciate all your efforts on my son’s behalf and mine as well; the support, guidance, … and “boundary holding” you provided were an integral part of his plan and success.” – Mother of 22 y/o man from Los Angeles, CA
“We want you to know how much we appreciate your mentoring (or should we say parenting) of our son. …we feel that you have been the most influential element of the program… and we want to thank you for your firmness and your patience in dealing with our troubled young man.” – Parents of a 21 y/o man from Atlanta, GA
“Patrick…you deserve a huge, gold star for not being afraid to be “the bad guy”…and you manage it so respectfully! Thanks so much!” – Mother of 25 y/o man from Carmel, IN
“Thank you for all you have done for our son and for us. Each interaction we had with you was positive and meaningful. But you may not know that on two occasions, your words and actions had a profound effect on me, my outlook and my convictions. There are not that many powerful moments [in life] and I am greatly appreciative.” – Mother of 19 y/o man from Chicago, IL